Friday, February 19, 2010

Being his Crown (Friday's Homemaker Moments)

Okay there is a change of plans.  Homemakers computer has an attitude so you get to talk to me today!  Are you happy?!  Well, anyway as I began to think this morning about the direction of this weeks "Being his Crown" I stumbled across this thought: .  I thought man that is pretty interesting.  We all have flaws but how are we able to still be a lovely beautiful crown atop our husbands head with a big o' flaw? 

Here is my thoughts some of us reading right now were previously married, some had many sex partners, some were told sex was bad and once it become good in marriage you were unable to come to grips with that reality beause your were told bad bad all your life.  Some of us have body image issues, others have guarded hearts because someone has hurt us emotionally, some of us are never satisfied, some of us refuse to submit because we think our husband is stupid, or just not as smart as we are.  Some of us carry poison in the form of a tongue and take every opportunity to spread it, some of us crush the very spirit of our husband with our attitudes, some of us are unwilling to love without perfect conditions, some of us abuse others out of a wounded heart, and some are trying so hard to again the approval of that one person all the while ignoring or dealing harshly with the ones whom God has sent that do approve.

That list felt long.  Well, it is long and could actually be longer.  But ladies that is what I am talking about, the flawed crown.  How are we working through the flaws in our lives as we are "BEing his Crown"?  You are still his crown dear sister, but let's face it we are not the perfect unstained crowns of glory! 

So my answer is a daily renewing.  I love my husband with all that I am but I admit to being flawed. I protect myself because I have been hurt,  it is hard for me to allow myself to be nurtured by him because he too is imperfect.  I had to come to grips with being raped and then allowing my body to be used by dudes in order that I would recieve "love".  All of that to then find I was never loved at all!  Remember, we are talking about a beautiful lovely flawed crown.  So how do I look in the mirror and present to my husband and ultimately the world this crowned beauty?  In Christ Alone!  I am not trying to be preachy but maybe I am.  I just want to offer hope to the woman who says Vine Woman or Homemaker Chronicle you seem to have it all together, but I am flawed.  No love we are all flawed!  Here is the amazing gift that I have recieved in Christ.  

All of my flaws, I MEAN ALL, Past, Present and Future flaws/sins have been addressed by Jesus Christ on the cross of Calvary.  The Vine Woman with the endless list of flaws is looked upon by God as a spotless, beaming light of radiance adorned atop of her husbands head!  Praise the Lord for such a wonderful gift in Christ.  The spiritual REALITY is that my crown is unstained, my daily concern is that I would walk in the natural this spiritual reality! To repeat that answer again it is a daily renewing in Christ.  I am constantly reminding myself of who God says I am because of Jesus Christ.  

Jude 1:24-25 says "Now to Him who is able to keep me from falling and present me faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy, to the only wise God our Savior, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and forever. AMEN!

It is Christ who sustains my unspoted crown atop my husband's head! 

So link up and leave a comment.  How are you dealing with "The FLAW in your Crown"?  


homemakerchronicles said...

Let me just say that I can SOOO identify with this issue. I deal with physical identity issues when it comes to feeling flawed. Although I know that there are many other flaws (personality-wise). This might not be the point you were trying to get across, but I would love to talk more about self-esteem issues within our marriages. Am I the only person that doesn't want my husband walking in the room when I am changing clothes for fear that he might see my flabby thighs? Or that I'm too small in some areas and too big in others and don't want him to get a first-hand look? So I try to rush through getting a shirt on or pulling my pants up so that he doesn't walk in and start getting all excited. Can anyone else identify with this?

Anonymous said...


So I don't want him to touch me. Isn't that ok? Shouldn't he just deal with it?


righteousnessbyfaith said...

Great post because these are things that every woman alive deals with! We are being totally deceived if we think that we are the only ones that hate the way we look without clothes (or with). We are being deceived when we look upon another woman and think "why can she do this so perfectly and I cannot?"
Why are we being deceived? Well this is a loaded question but I believe the ultimate answer is what you touched on Nicolle. We are able to be so deceived in this area because our focus is not on Jesus Christ and him alone. We are too focused inward (on the things we don't like about ourselves) and too focused outward (on the people around us we are comparing ourselves to) rather than being focused upward on Christ.
I actually hate when someone assumes that I have it all together because I absolutely do not and I never want to be that woman that makes another woman feel bad about themselves and we do that when we are open and honest about who we are and what Christ has saved us from.
WHOA! Sorry, didn't mean for my response to be SOOOO long!
Maybe i should just blog about this and use the linky thingy! ;)
Great topic-I am thankful for you and your heart Nicolle. You have a lot to share and give and i am thankful I get to be apart of it. :)

Anonymous said...

Nicolle...I love love love you my dear. And matter the size of your body your heart is always the right size (for God and for your husband)!!!

Amy said...

Love your openness and vulnerability! God is doing a great work through you two!

Nicolle said...

WoW Ladies, the direction of your responses is the exact place we won't to be. Open, Honest, REAL!

Homemakerchronicles.. I think your thoughts are right on and many feel this way. I think we could continue that direction next week and really look at what is happening in our own minds about preceived flaws versus true flaws.

Mrs. Hurt....I would love to open a dialog with you about your thoughts. I am thankful that you were willing to share. Out of every 10 women who read this blog about 2-3 can truly identify with you. I think you have to examine why you don't want him to touch you. If you are willing to share that we can talk friend!

Righteousbyfaith...I think our biggest problem is that we judge when we shouldn't. In regards to other women and ourselves. If we could see ourselves as Christ sees us then we would look a whole lot better and so would other women.

Anonymous... Thank you! Your words are very encouraging for me! I pray others recieve likewise.

Amy...Praise the Lord! Those things are never easy to do, but I do know that I have not walked the road in life that I have to not share and help others in their walk. So thank you and praise the Lord for you reading! :)

Nicolle said...

I meant want to be...sorry I am typo lady!