Monday, May 31, 2010

Memorial Day!

Memorial Day is a United States federal holiday observed on the last Monday of May. Formerly known as Decoration Day, it commemorates U.S. men and women who died while in the military service. First enacted to honor Union soldiers of the American Civil War (it is celebrated near the day of reunification after the Civil War), it was expanded after World War I.

Here is a video and song for you to be still and reflect on your freedom today!  You have heard it time and time again FREEDOM IS NOT FREE!  Salvation is not free!  Christ PAID for your salvation! 


I want to say thank you to the men and women that serve this country!

I want to say thank you for the wives and husbands who scarifice every day for our freedom. 

Thank you for enduring long nights away from home.  The repeat tours overseas.  The years you miss of the lives of those you love the most.  The moms thank you for being strong!  Thank you for building community around women and men that are waiting at home.  Thank you for praying.  Thank you for being strong when your spouse is not the same upon their return home.  Thank you for loving them.  Thank you for writing letters and sending care packages.  Thank you for your leadership! 






Please comment on this post and thank or remember a soldier by writing their name and if you would like add a special note about them.

To my husband (former) Captain Phillip Fletcher.....Thank you for every hard scarifice!  Thank you for the love you have for your family and those who serve alongside you.  Thank you for being strong enough to stand for something greater than yourself.  Thank you for being disciplined! I love you for being the man you are.  I thank God for what you and I both learned and experienced as a military family.  ARMY STRONG HOOAH!

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Funny Family Moments in the Fletcher House!

So Phil and I wanted to know what our children think about dating.  This conversation began by our children asking the question, "At what age will we be able to go to the movies with just our friends?"  Our answer was pretty simple.  We will not create a standard age for our children to do anything really.  It will depend on their independent level of responsibility, friends, obedience, the movie they want to see etc.  Basically it will be to our discretion and on a child by child basis!  That conversation lead into another.  The topic of dating.  Phil and I don't think we have come to a complete conclusion on the topic.  We have heard so much and simply are not sure which way to go with it.  We have talked about courting, arranged marriage, dating, banning all forms of contact between the opposite gender outside of parental relationship and on and on.  Phil has talked about polishing weapons and intimidating all males and I have threatened to ban all "chicken heads" from our house.  But what is a realistic expectation?  This is still a matter of prayer and praise the Lord that we still have time to wait and hear from the Lord.

In the meantime, Phil and I both know each one of our children have formed their own opinions about dating, courting and the rest.  So here are the results.

Our 11 year old boy says.....
Well the problem with dating is if people have sex, make out, or kiss.  So if you don't have sex, or make out or kiss people should be able to date at 10 years old.  Our question to him was, "Son, what would a person do with a boyfriend or girlfriend at the age of 10 years old?"  his response was they could hold hands outside of school. 

Then we have our youngest an 8 year old girl says.....
I think we should date at the age of 18!  She was very excited about her answer.  We are not sure if that is her true belief or if she just wanted to answer the question according to what we think would be a good answer.  She went on to explain that 18 was a good age because you should be going to college and have the high school stuff out of the way and your maturity is in place to date.

Finally our middle child a 9 year old girl says....
You have to date at the age of 16 years old.  Because you need at least 3-4 years to get to know a person before you marry them.  I will be married at 20.  She went on to say that she and her friend watched a show called, "Say yes to the dress" and she was 49 getting married for the first time.  Oh, my she was way too old to be getting married for the first time.  Who wants to be that old and getting married.  I mean you can't even have children then.  You body is starting to breakdown.  No, way man.  I want a boyfriend at 16 for my birthday gift! 

Okay people what do we say to these things!  I will admit a whole lot of laughter took place after that conversation.  However I thought it was good to hear what they think about these topic without spoon feeding them our thoughts and beliefs.  We certainly took the time to shape some of what was said, but even more so I had to examine my thoughts on a few things.

What is the appropriate age to allow your children to develop relationships with the opposite gender.  In some ways I feel like the rules are the same as the movie rules.  Phil had to look long and hard about Najee's thoughts and her 16th birthday request.  LOL But seriously!  Naj is my home schooled child, who has really learned this year about being a wife and mother.  So naturally her desire would be towards marriage and motherhood.  We are also currently in a sea of young people getting married at the age of 18-24 years old.  Even I got married at 21 years old.  I can see where that thought process came from.

I don't know.  What do you think?  What are you teaching your children about dating, courting and the opposite gender?  What is your philosophy about this topic with your kids?  Do you look at your dating experience and think it is something they should follow or is your experience something you want your children to avoid?  Let's chat about that.  I want to hear from you.


Friday, May 28, 2010

A Poem from my daughter Nichelle

Enjoy this lovely story by my daughter!  Please forgive all the family photos you will understand why I said that after you view it.  I just could not imagine using another person for the character references. 

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Wednesday in the Word! Respect part 2

Last week I asked you to find scripture to help me on the road to understanding biblical respect.  I found a few and I will share them.  Then it is your turn.  There were some great comments last week, but I am still looking for scripture to back up our beliefs about respect.

I will begin by giving a pretty basic and secular definition:

1. To feel or show deferential regard for; esteem.

2. To avoid violation of or interference with: respect the speed limit.
3. To relate or refer to; concern.

1. A feeling of appreciative, often deferential regard; esteem. See Synonyms at regard.
2. The state of being regarded with honor or esteem.
3. Willingness to show consideration or appreciation.
4. respects Polite expressions of consideration or deference: pay one's respects.
5. A particular aspect, feature, or detail: In many respects this is an important decision.

Based on this definition I believe we can look at Proverbs 1:8-9.  Hear, my son your father's instruction, and forsake not your mother's teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck.  The scripture is calling children to have a deferential regard for the instruction that parents give. It is highlighted as adornment around their head and neck.

Romans 13:1-7 talks about respect to authorities.  It also highlights that authorities are not bad but good.  Authority seems bad to you when you go against it.  I will add here that men and women in power have a tendency to abuse that place and lord over people.  Which goes against the very purpose of authorities.

That brings me to my final point.  Then I would love to hear from you.  We see perfect love, respect and authority in the relationship of the Father and Christ.  Christ was in perfect submission to the Father. (John 6:35-40) It was the Father's will that Christ yielded to in everything.  Christ pointed to the Father in all things.  Then the Father turns around and points to the Son.  (John 1:33-34) What an awesome picture of love, respect and authority.  I see the scripture telling us we need all three working in concert.

What does that mean practically? To the mom and dad you have to carry your authority from a place of love and not power.  We have talked over and over about this in our home.  It is love and not power.  What do we naturally do and or think of those who use their power over you?  If you examine your heart, you will know without a shadow of a doubt that the forcefully powerful lose every time.  Let's take a second look at Christ.  Over and over He could have exercised His power but every time he displayed love.  Guess what that does?  It draws the loved person closer.  Their respect and love increases as a result.

Last week I was DONE!  Do you hear me DONE!  However my husband really walked our family through the truth of love, respect and authority.  When there is love, grace, patience, long suffering, gentleness and clearly defined expectations there will be respect.  You don't even have to fight for it.  There will be a natural out pour of respect.  I think last week I was ready to fight for respect.  I do mean fight! However, from the scriptures I see that love is how respect is gained.

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Titus Twosday "Modesty in 2010?!"

Take a journey with me as we talk about modesty as it relates to Christianity. I will say now if it hurts say “OUCH” and make the needed changes. If you are fine then encourage another woman to be more aware of her need to dress modestly. Okay, so you may be wondering where all this began.

About two days ago Phil was listening to a sermon by C.J. Mahaney about modesty. Then Saturday we went to Wild River Country (a water Park in Arkansas) for the day. After careful review of the scripture, the message (by CJ) and a close look at the world we live in I was horrified. I was horrified by the dress of others and at times my own dress. I will say when the topic of modesty is brought to the table women usually leave it at a condition of the heart. What is your motive in dressing this way or that? To that I agree and at the same time we have to take that a little further.

Look at some scriptures.

1 Timothy 2:8-10 (ESV)
8I desire then that in every place the men should pray, lifting holy hands without anger or quarreling; 9likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, 10 but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.

1 Peter 3:3-6 (ESV)
3 Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— 4but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 5For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, 6as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.

Proverbs 11:22 (ESV)
22Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout
is a beautiful woman without discretion.

After the visit to the water park I was pretty much in shock. Young girls wearing those triangle string bikinis that not only showed the tops and sides of their breast but the bottom too! The list of things goes on and on for inappropriate attire. Since I listened to that message by CJ I could only think of the men who wanted to have a day of adventure with their families having to endure breast and butt in their face every where they turned. It doesn’t even end at the females. I can’t even count how many times I got a full moon shine from some guy wearing his swim shorts too low. Both genders are attempting to show as much as possible to as many people as possible. This breaks my heart. I have to ask why? What has happened in our world that is creating this type of monster? I should not be surprised. There is nothing new under the sun. Modesty seems to change depending on the time period. This is why I agree with an individuals dress being an issue of the heart, but what is the rest?

I will be honest and say for many years I just felt like if a guy has a lust problem he needs to seek the Lord about it. I should not have to cover my whole body only revealing my hands and face for his sake. My mind is changing. You could say my mind is being renewed! I don’t want to appear as an Amish woman or a prostitute. My desire is to dress as the scripture calls us…respectable and modest. The trouble is what does that look like. I did some research on the web and found many, many articles about modesty, even clothing websites were you can purchase modest apparel. Some I thought were way over the top. But could I just be a product of this culture and be missing the mark as well? There is a fine line between legalism and license. I will connect you with one of the websites that I personally found very helpful. It did not seem legalistic at all. It seems to serve as a guideline. I’ll post that later. Moving to the reason why I believe this is a problem in our culture.

I think several things have happened. Women have not been teaching the younger women as Titus 2 instructs. I also believe women have forgotten or misunderstood what truly makes them beautiful. It is not the outer beauty that is lasting but the hidden person of the heart. That is what God looks for in his daughters. This is what we should be reflecting to the world.

I stated earlier that there were some things I needed to change as well. I am busty. Anyone who has seen me is well aware of that fact. It can not be hidden from anyone. You might ask Nicolle, “Why are you making this statement while talking about modesty?” Why not? We all have to identify what about our body’s poses a stumbling block to the opposite gender. Then pay special attention when leaving the house that, that particular area is well covered or doesn’t command undue attention. Women you are designed with hills and valleys that are visually pleasing to men. The goal in that was not for you to turn every man’s head when you walk in a room but to turn your husbands head. Your body is for your husband, not every Tim, Terry and Tom. So toning things down in public is a wonderful idea.

Here are some questions for us all to consider.

1. What would you tell a young girl about modesty? What does it mean?

2. What do you personally do to remain modest in your appearance?

3. If a woman in your church said your dress was immodest what would you do or say?

Now here is some material for you to consider. this site has a great modesty guideline allows you have some style. a great resource to other sites about modesty an interesting movement about youth rebelling against the cultural expectations of immodesty.

Monday, May 24, 2010

Ministry Monday! Your Family is your FIRST ministry!

This Ministry Monday is very interesting.  There are a lot of AWESOME events on the horizon. I will share them all with you.  But first I have to talk about my most important ministry.  That is my husband and children.  Some of you may have read my "being his crown" post or even the "wednesday in the word" post last week.  Both of those post at the very heart of them were about my family.  So, I thought I give an update on that.  We are doing well!  My husband is all over it in every way.  For that I am thankful.  My kids are being redirected and I am blessed at what I see in them.  The evidence of grace is all our lives is abundant!  It is my heart that we truly keep a healthy balance between ministry inside and outside the home.  Our lives are a witness of Christ all the time everyday, not just my family but yours too.  It is neccessary that our first disciples (children) not be neglected while making disciples of others.  I think we should all be doing both.  Making disciples of our children and others.  This is just a reminder to me that I must wash my children in the word as we go about each and everyday.  We must seek out teachable moments with our children "by the way, as we go about our day."  The same thing goes for making disciples of others.  As we are in the marketplace (Kroger), the mall, at the library....make disciples.  You don't have to go overseas to make disciples.  You can and should start in your home and then with the neighbor etc. etc.  This is a warning to all (myself included).  Don't neglect your family to reach the neighbor across the seas.  That is actually failure and speaks ill of the gospel.  I am not indicating that your family should be perfect before doing anything outside.  I am however pointing out our need to look deeper into the needs of the disciples that God has automatically given us.  For the husband, you have automatic disciples...wife and children.  For the have automatic disciples...children and holding the husband accountable.  You are his accountablity partner in all things.  Then from there we make disciples of all men (peoples).  

So, I just wanted to give an update on our purposeful, clear direction within our family as we serve first one another, then the many men and women that God places in our path.  

Okay , so now what is happening with the City of Hope Outreach?

1. Continuing to build relationships in and around this city!
2. June 19, 2010 is the next God, Gospel and Poverty Seminar  this is an awesome way to learn about the needs of the poor in your city and how to be a blessing and not another welfare agency.
3. June 21-25, 2010 we are partnered the United Way to help with there Day of Action.  We will assist with and have created service project around the city of Conway for men and women to volunteer with.  We will have people all over downtown Conway holding signs with stats about poverty in our city.  We are super excited about this.
4. I am heading up a group of ladies to attend the True Woman's Conference in Fort Worth Texas in October.  We still have openings so if you would like to come along with us, contact me.  This is an invitation to all women.
5. Community Lunch This Sunday in Oakwood.  Those are always fun to be apart of.  We will gather for worship as usual at 1:00pm and then break bread during the message for an awesome time of biblical fellowship.  Come and join us if you can.
6. King's Club will be meeting twice per week (tues. and thurs.)  beginning in June until early August.  
7. We have CoHO vehicle stickers for sale.  They are $5 each. They look just like the picture at the top of this blog post.  They are all white and super cool.  

If you are interested in participating in any of these activities and need more detail please leave a comment or email me directly at 



Friday, May 21, 2010

FHM Being His Crown "Blessed to be His Crown"

This FHM “Being His Crown” is all about the blessing of being his crown. We have talked over and over about how important it is that we embrace the true beauty and blessing we are to our husbands. Today I am compelled to share how I am blessed to be the crown worn by my husband. You might call this a bragging session but you shouldn’t! You should call this true rejoicing in the Lord for His provision and wonderful grace displayed in my husband, which should in turn cause you to look at the wonderful blessing your husband is to you. Really consider the fact that your husband could be married to any woman in the world but you are the chosen one! Take a moment to recall that girlfriend of yours who told you about a problem she was experiencing in her marriage. The first thought in your head was, “Oh my…I am thankful not to be married to that man!” The truth is we all have struggles but not every woman is equipped to deal with every struggle. So the struggles you experience in your marriage will be specific to what the Lord is working out in your life. (Okay so I obviously went off on a tangent somewhere. We are back on track now).

Wednesday I experienced one of the worst parenting days of my life. I am aware that it won’t be the last. Anyway, my husband and I rotate morning wake up with the kids. Wednesday was my morning. The kids were in a crazy place and had been for sometime. They seem to have crazy attitudes and all kinds of other issues right now. Needless to say there was a whole lot of chaos that morning. My husband called me into the bedroom and asked me what was wrong. So, I just poured my heart out. I explained to him how the kids are rude to one another, disrespectful and on and on. I went on to say I was diligently searching for what the scripture has to say about respect and authority. I told him that I was worried that they are learning all their ugly behavior from me. I blame myself for their attitudes and whatever else was wrong. He then said, “I will take care of it. We will meet tonight at dinner and address this problem.” He comforted and reassured me that I was not to blame for their behavior. After that I just wept on his chest for about twenty minutes. The kids were still around talking and asking questions, commanding attention etc. My King put an end to all of it! We got the school children off to school and the homeschooled child on to schooling.

Then one of the most amazing things took place. My husband and I made love in such a way that brought healing to my soul. Okay, I do realize I am writing this is on my very public blog, but the Song of Solomon is also very public scripture! Back to the moment, as our bodies intertwined so did our hearts. God used my husband as a protector, provider, prophet, healer, lover and king. My tears were swallowed by his strength. Phil heard and responded to the depths of my pain. Understand that this was not done in his strength. He was able to love and bring healing because of what Christ has done for him. He was in tune with my need by God’s grace.

That evening we sat at the dinner table ate about 3/4th of the meal and then my husband began to speak. He explained that there was going to be a new order in our house. He also took full responsibility for the problem of harsh tone in our house. He explained where it began and how it will end. Christ is our focus and we love because he loved. The hammer was laid down and it was awesome. But he did not leave us with a hammer alone. He then explained how we need to speak to one another in light of the gospel. We need to look for the evidences of grace in the lives of our family members. He spoke as a prophet and protector which brought healing to our whole family. He even purchase a mini, mini container of ice cream for every family member. He explained how Jesus often spoke to the disciples around a meal. Therefore we get to partake of this correction and redirection with joy. That night got to share how we see God working in each of our lives. Before we even think of giving correction we need to see evidence of God’s grace in the life of the other individual. It was clear that he had taken in what I said and then sought Christ for clear direction and just laid it out in the most loving and direct way possible.

I am a very blessed woman! I am privileged to be worn on the head of this man. I love the way he loves me, attends to me, directs me in light of scripture, seeks the Father, looks well to the ways of his household and totally and completely has my back. Translation he would be willing to give of his very life for me. That is the kind of man I have. I am worn on his head in this life forever! Praise the Living God for His gift of love towards me through my husband.

What do you have to share about the man who wears you on his head? You don’t have to share a super long story like I did or you can. I would love to hear how blessed you are to be worn by your man!

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Wednesday's Word!

What does the scripture have to say about respect?  I am on a quest to define and completely nail this topic.  We are called to respect in a million different ways.  Wives see to that you respect your husband.  Children obey your parents.  I think that is a type of respect.  You have to have some level of respect in order to obey another person.  Right?  Well, today I am looking for your help.  Throw out some scriptures and definitions about respect.

Is it disrespectful for a child to express themselves to a parent and point their finger at them?

Is it respectful to be brutally honest with someone?

Is it respectful to call a person older than you by their first name?

What examples in scripture can we look to in order to understand respect better?

Are the lines black and white?  Is there gray area?  Let's take some time to look at this.

I found these scriptures in the concordance of my bible:

Matthew 21:37  (this passage describes a lack of respect),
Romans 13:7 (about giving proper respect to the appropraite people)
I Thessalonians 5:12 (giving respect to those over you, because they labour and love you)
I Peter 2:18 (being respectful even in the really hard areas)

What can you find?  What can we look at together?

Our goal is to understand RESPECT from a biblical perspective.  Respect in relationships such as husband and wife, parent and child, older and younger, and finally peer to peer.    

Monday, May 17, 2010

Titus Twosday!

This came to me from a friend by email.  The scripture spoke to me and brought with it life.  Isn't that awesome when God's word does what He says it will do!  Anyway, I thought I'd post some of the content because it was a blessing to me.  After you read it I will explain why it was such a blessing to me.  You can share if it blesses you too.

 Psalm 128:1-4

Blessed is everyone who fears the Lord, who walks in his ways!
You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands; you shall be blessed and it shall be well with you.
Your wife will be like a fruitful vine (i.e., a bringer of joy like wine, and the mother of children) within your house; your children will be like olive shoots (full of energy and promise) around your table. Behold, thus shall the man be blessed who fears the Lord.

  • Wives, bring joy to their house.
  • Wives, love your own spouse well. (will bring joy!!)
  • Mothers, faithfully train your children in godliness. (will bring peace and joy)
  • Mothers, view your children as God does. (full of energy and promise)
  • Single women, learn from the women around you how to love your future spouse and train children in godliness.
 What an awesome list of things you are to your family!  I am encouraged as wife and convicted as mother!  I am encouraged to know that I bring joy to my home according to the scriptures.  It is encouraging to know that loving my husband brings joy to me and him.  I am convicted in my role as mother.  Particularly the part of viewing my children as God does, full of energy and promise.  I have forgotten this biblical perspective. I have gotten busy thinking they should already be in a place that they are striving towards yet have not attained.  Therefore, I have become impatient.  It was this text that opened my eyes to the truth of God's love towards me.  I mean really!  My kids are currently at difficult stages in their live.  But, I am always in a difficult stage when it comes to Christ.  I am needy and try to be independent.  I am foolish and attempt to be wise.  Does this sound like a kid to you?  It does to me. 

So the scripture above is my prayer for my family.  Ultimately, that we would all fear the Lord and walk in HIS ways.  As we sit at the table I would know we are blessed because of the food that is there (indication of work) and the family that surrounds me (indication of God's blessings).  May I look upon my children with the love and adoration of the Father, even in the midst of my wrong.  Let love, joy, peace and long suffering be my name.

What say you?


Somethin' for the Funnies!

So I have been in all kinds of worship services....but this one is NEW TO ME!  What do you think?

Friday, May 14, 2010

FHM Being His Crown....Blast from the Past How did you Compare?

Last week Angie posted a chart to score how a woman in 2010 compared to a woman in 1930's.  So, how many of you asked your husband to score you?  Well, I did!  It was super fun and very eye opening!  My raw score was 9 which makes me an official failure as a wife in the 1930's.  Praise the Lord that His ordains the seasons and times in which we live.  Phil's comment after taking the test was, "I am going to divorce my wife according to Jewish Law and find another one because she will NOT allow me to sleep late on Sunday!"  Please that was a joke.  :)

Here is the old chart.

Let's make our own chart for 2010!

What should the standard be?  What should you get a merit or a demerit for?  This a list that my husband and I came up with.  Test yourself in the same manner as the old chart subtracting the demertis from the merits.  If it has a (D) next to it, well that is a demerit.  If it has a (M) next to it, it is a merit.  Every question is worth 1 point unless otherwise noted with a number in ( ). Then it subtract the merits from th demerits and get your raw score.  Use the original chart interpretations of your scores.  Have fun!  I will share with you my 2010 woman interpretations at the end.

1. Slow to eagerly participate in sex (D)(5)

2. Able to watch and understand sports without questions (M)

3. Able to make food from scratch (M)

4. Calls her mother or father to complain about husband (D)

5. Wears granny panties because they are comfortable (D)

6. Talks to people on Face book more than you (D)(5)

7. Can be found texting or on the computer longer than tending to the family (D)

8. Has a higher paying job than you (D)

9. Seeks to be like Mother Eve, and dominates her husband (D)(5)

10. Female friends over your house all the time(D)

11. Able to redesign the house on a budget(M)

12. Leaves notes about how wonderful you are(M)

13. Actually makes dinner for the family (M)

14. Is welcoming to guest (M)

15. Always seeking “ME TIME” (D)(5)

16. Keeps the cabinets filled with food you enjoy (M)

17. Is a great entertainer(M)

18. Creates a home atmosphere that is pleasant to come home to (M) (10)

19. Has other women that she faithfully disciples(M)

20. Has a special talent or gift that is complementary to yours.(M) (5)

21. Drops the kids off to school in pajamas(D)

22. Thinks of creative things to do with family (M)

23. Is rude, loud and opinionated about everything (D)

24.  Hides while changing clothes (D)
I took my own test and failed again! This time however I scored a 15 I am moving up the charts.  I did discover that the test is designed to make you fail.  You can only score a maximum of 25 points and that leaves you as a poor housewife to say the least.  So ladies don't be discouraged you are still "being his Crown".  I hope you enjoyed this little experiment.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

3R Tutoring End of Year slide show

One of the obstacles to overcoming poverty is education and opportunity. The 3R’S Tutoring program is an opportunity to reinforce education essentials in reading, writing and mathematics. 3R’s Tutoring will also assist children in grades 1-12 in homework, college preparation and exposure to other educational opportunities.

The video you will see was put together by the tutors that made 3R Tutoring possible for the 2010.  We are looking forward to having more volunteers and students involved in the tutoring program for the 2010-2011 school year.  Thank you again to all who made this year possible!  Enjoy the video slide.

3R Tutoring Overview from CITY OF HOPE OUTREACH on Vimeo.

Friday, May 7, 2010

Friday's Homemaker Moments

In lieu of our regular discussion about how we are currently being our husband’s crown, this week I would like to take a look back to a former era for a little comparing. I think we’re all aware, on some level, of the changes that have come about in women’s roles here in the U.S. and I found this great little checklist on line that will solidify our predictions. This “Woman’s Chart” was unearthed by some psychologists and is an actual document used by marriage counselors in the late 1930’s. To me it really speaks volumes about how different the role of a house wife really is today.

Now I realize that not everyone is a housewife, but I would love to see what all of our husbands have to say about our performances. So the assignment this week is to give your husband the “Wife’s Chart” and see how you measure up! You can post your scores in the comments or point out a specific area that you find interesting/ridiculous/unattainable.

Next week we’ll be discussing more about the differences between the 1930’s wife and the 2010 wife. I mean, I think I’m pretty much June Cleaver reincarnate, but it never hurts to take a good hard look at reality. Know what I mean?

Homemaker Chronicles